I just witnessed an amazing thing on TLC’s What Not to Wear. A woman –who when faced with trying to put together new outfits for a new, professional, hip look –had a complete meltdown every time she tried something on because it was too tight, too loose or she looked too pretty or too ugly.
When you walk into a dressing room carrying your six items, how do you feel? Are you nervous or excited? Like many women, I’m nervous –especially if I’m trying to buy a new bra, which is the most horrible dressing room experience ever.
What about when you leave? How many items are you carrying out? Six? Oh, to the fitting room attendant. Yeah, I do that, too.
It is so hard to be your own final judgment call.
I can have something beautiful on and NOT buy it because it’s just a bit too revealing of my legs, an area I’m very self-conscious about, or it squeezes too tight around my middle, and I feel fat or like I shouldn’t be wearing something like that because I’m not good enough for it.
While I have never actually broken down in a dressing room, let alone on national television, I know what it’s like to fall apart just by looking in a mirror. I know what it is like to hate every thing I see and not have a good reason for it other than very low self-esteem.
Her name was Sarah, the woman on the show; and like me she didn’t know how to take a compliment, how to feel pretty or even what pretty was.
But, for one week, she had a support group; and it was probably the only time I’ve seen anybody on a “reality television show” –especially one like “What Not to Wear,” where the point is to tear apart somebody’s fashion decisions –treat someone with compassion and care. I think they actually cared –at least the gay guy did –that she should feel good about herself.
Even if they did not care, I do. Like Sarah, I gave myself a week to try , and my support group was myself, Husband, my coworkers and my friends, and everyone who read and commented on my Challenge Week.
I have more self-confidence now. I hope Sarah does, too. And I hope you do, too.
If you’re not, try giving yourself a week.